..that every memory is forever etched on my skin, on every surface his lips touched.
..that if I could take all the hurt back I would, and then bring it all upon myself a hundredfold..
..that he doesn’t deserve someone as selfish as I.
..that I will always yearn for a lifetime with him..
..that he’s the best person in the world..
..that I can’t undo what’s done.
..that he’s all I ever really needed.
..that I still and will always love him.
—“Tuesdays with Morrie” by Mitch Albom (via kari-shma)
People ask me all the time how I’m surviving a long distance relationship (It’s been 2 and a half years). Most people cannot even fathom being in one, and those who are in them typically end in break ups after a few weeks or months.
Unfortunately, a close friend of mine who had to work in another country from her significant other just got this imminent unhappy decision yesterday from her now ex-boyfriend. They only lasted over a month, after a happy >1 year relationship.
Let me tell you this, a long distance relationship (or LDR as many people refer it to) is still a RELATIONSHIP. Yes, it’s not the conventional relationship, but it still involves two people committing to each other (and doesn’t that sound like any regular relationship?). I think that most couples who transition into them forget this. There is much emphasis on the lonesome nights, the lack of intimacy, the lack of dates, and the list goes on, that people actually forget that any relationship will take work, no matter what your situation is with your partner. EVERY relationship needs faith, trust and love. Period.
My boyfriend pointed out last night that among his group of guy friends, he was the only one currently in a relationship. Two of his friends recently broke it off with their then-partners after about 4-5 years of ‘regular- same city’ relationships. It makes you realize that every relationship has its pros, cons, and set of problems. Nobody is immune to a break up and although your particular situation might predispose you to one (i.e. being countries apart) due to unconventional relationship stresses, it will take work and patience from both parties to make ANY relationship work, long distance or otherwise.
When I think about it, I don’t even think of my relationship as an LDR. You might not understand that, but what I mean is when I think of my boyfriend and my relationship, I don’t let the distance issue get in the way of what’s really important to us. I have a loving and trustworthy boyfriend who loves me and is absolutely wonderful. I am faithful and love him very much as well. Yes, we’re currently apart. Yes, we are confined to regular and video-chatting, Skype calling, and the like. Yes, it is extremely difficult. Yes, we face issues that most couples do not, but we work on those because we want to be together and make our relationship work.
If you really truly love each other, is distance supposed to change that? Why let anything stand in the way of making your relationship work?
After 2.5 years of being in one, my partner and I are still trudging on. We make a conscious decision day in and day out, to choose each other, and work on our relationship the best way we can.
I’m tired. I finally am burnt out.
Been lurking around social networks seeing what everyone in my peer group is doing with their life and they are either working, or in graduate school, or getting married. A part of me thought for a second, “Oh shoot, you’ll be left behind if you don’t go to grad school asap!” But another part of me thought that it’s okay.
It is okay!
I know, I know, I’m barely 22 yet but I really am tired! I need a vacation now. A few more days and I’ll be free from my books (temporarily- pfft!!), but even then, my summer seems to be lined up with endless paperwork and finances and whatnot.
This is going to be an interesting, roller-coaster ride of a year for me— i can feel it! Major changes— New job(s)? Grad school? Hmmm, everything is up in the air and as of right this moment, I don’t care what happens.
I just want to lay on the sand, feel the warm sun on my skin, and smell the ocean breeze.
I can taste it already. Freedom.
—Sia (via jalousie)
—The Notebook (via loveandromancee)
Love can’t be a feeling. Happiness is a feeling. Sadness is a feeling. Love is a verb. It’s me choosing you everyday, day in and day out, year after year, through the happy days and the much harder times and everyday in between.
That’s how I see it.
It’s a new year and I still choose you.
October 20, 2011
Hello, I love you. I wish I could see you; kiss you, hold you, touch you, love you. I know that you’re there somewhere, but where, I do not know. I wanted to tell you how much I’ve missed you recently and how much I’ve needed you here just to hold my hand and tell me that everything will be alright. I wish you were here. Don’t you? Where are you? Please come find me soon. It’s getting cold and lonely out here on my own. I haven’t been sleeping well lately. I’ve been dreaming of you and all the things you might be doing; wondering if you’ve been thinking of me as I do of you. I hope that you do.
—Like Crazy (via talkingincodes)